Adulthood is overrated.

But at the same time, one of the best parts of being grown is that you have full autonomy over how you show up in your life and the decisions you make.

Today I had one of those moments where it really hit me again. I am, in fact, grown.

Not a new realization, but one that keeps popping up in different ways. Today it showed up while I was making my morning coffee.

We had two different creamers in the fridge, but only one was open. I reached for the unopened one, and out of habit, I put it back. Then I paused and literally said out loud, “I’m grown, I can have both.” Ask my wife, she was there.

And I opened it.

Now some of y’all might be like, “Okay… and?” But for those who get it, you get it.

That moment wasn’t really about creamer. It was about realizing how many habits, rules, and ways of thinking we carry from childhood that don’t actually serve us anymore.

For me, it was that small, conditioned mindset of “don’t open multiple things.” But what else am I still holding onto without questioning it?

That’s the real question.

So I want to challenge you to think about it for yourself. What beliefs, habits, or “rules” are you still following that don’t make sense for your life anymore?

For me, it was creamer today. Tomorrow? Who knows.

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Quick question for y’all.

Has anyone read Decolonizing Therapy by Jennifer Mullan?

I just picked it up and I’m planning to start it in the next couple of weeks. If you’ve read it, let me know your thoughts. No spoilers, but let me know if it’s hitting.

Also, send me your recommendations. I’m building a reading list and I’m always looking for books that challenge perspective and expand thinking.

1. I am allowed to question old beliefs and choose what works for me now.
Growth starts when I stop living on autopilot.

2. I give myself permission to do things differently.
I am not bound by rules that no longer serve my life.

3. I trust myself to make decisions that align with who I am today.
I am not the same person I used to be, and that’s a good thing.

4. Small moments of awareness create big shifts over time.
Every realization moves me closer to the life I want.

5. I am free to create my own version of adulthood.
My life does not have to look like anyone else’s.

Sometimes growth doesn’t look like a big breakthrough. Sometimes it’s small moments like realizing you don’t have to follow rules that don’t apply to your life anymore.

Pay attention to those moments. That’s where the real work is happening.

If this made you think about something in your own life, I’d love to hear it. What’s one belief or habit you’re starting to question or let go of?

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