Control What You Can (and Let the Rest Go)

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It’s November — The Season of Gratitude, Growth, and “I’m Tired of Y’all” Energy

The holidays are on the way, and that means the end of the year. How have your goals gone? According to plan? Some unforeseen obstacles? Who saw the year we had coming?

You might be thinking you’re not doing enough, or that something’s wrong with you, but let’s be real, you’re human. “To human is to err,” or something like that. The moral of the story is: fucking up is human. What you choose to do after the fuck up says more about you than when everything’s smooth.

To err is to be human, but to grow, learn, and bounce back? That’s human too. Watch the video here.

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You messed up? That’s okay, do better, be better. You’re human, not perfect. Ya’ll not hearing me tho lol.

Holiday Chaos and Choosing Peace

My personal holiday frustration? I have a flight on Thanksgiving day, and I’m about 85% sure (as of writing this) it’s gonna be delayed or canceled. I could cry about it, or I can let it go because that’s something I can’t control. If we can’t fly, we gonna eat good regardless. Houston food is top tier!

I hope the holidays don’t stress you out too much. Remember, you’re BIG grown. You really don’t have to do anything you don’t wanna do. You can only control your thoughts and behaviors. If folks wanna act an ass, that’s on them. Your power is choosing how you move. Sometimes the best move is stepping out of the splash zone of messy ass people, even if those people are family. You know who they are 👀

Mind & Mingle Recap

Ya boy had a successful community event: Mind & Mingle. The day of, I was nervous AF. What if no one showed up? Would that mean I’m not worthy? That nobody rocks with me? That I’m incapable? I was spiraling.

But I had to remind myself that those thoughts weren’t helpful or based in reality. Even knowing that, the anxiety still hit. Shoutout to my amazing wife, Ciandra, she kept me grounded, wiped the sweat off my brow, and talked some sense into me.

🎥 Watch the TikTok slideshow here.

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The first Mind & Mingle event was awesome. Great turnout and I’m already looking forward to holding the next one in 2026. Shout out to eve... See more

New Section: Read, Watch, Reflect

Each month, I’m gonna start dropping a recommendation , something worth checking out that’ll feed your mind or spirit. This pick was recommended to me by a client, shoutout to you for putting me on.

This month’s pick: March by John Lewis, the first volume in a graphic novel trilogy. March: Book One takes you through John Lewis’s journey from a kid in rural Alabama to becoming a key figure in the Civil Rights Movement. It follows him as he links up with Dr. King, helps lead nonviolent sit-ins, and fights back against segregation. The story kicks off with him getting ready for Obama’s 2009 inauguration, a full-circle moment that shows just how far the fight for justice has come (and how far we still gotta go).

You can grab it at most bookstores or read it free on the Libby app (all you need is a library card — if you don’t have one, go get one).

We Celebrate You

We celebrate YOU. Whether it’s getting out of bed when you didn’t feel like it, checking in on a friend, or showing up for yourself in a small way, it all counts. Your effort matters.

If you’ve had a recent win, breakthrough, or proud moment, share it with us at [email protected]. Your story might be exactly what someone else needs to hear this month. Got a question about mental health or therapy? Send it our way. We’re here to support you and help point you in the right direction.

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Affirmations for the Month

1. I am human, and that’s enough.
Mistakes don’t define me, how I learn from them does.

2. I can let go of what I can’t control.
Peace comes when I stop trying to manage other people’s chaos.

3. I honor my boundaries, even during the holidays.
Saying no is an act of self-respect, not guilt.

4. I am proud of my growth, even if it’s messy.
Progress isn’t perfect, but it’s still progress.

5. I choose peace, rest, and grace this season.
Because I deserve to feel grounded and whole, not drained and obligated.

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